Recap from Sunday: To be known is to stand still and let the Other approach you. Both the elder brother and younger brother have difficulty standing still. They rather be noticed, not known. The elder brother types tend to move towards the Other by being "good". If they aren't they believe the Other won't find them worthwhile to move towards them. They are the people-pleasing types. They can't handle a moment of stillness in a relationship in fear that the Other may get bored and walk away. The younger brother types tend to move away from the Other by being "bad." It's the only way for them to feel a sense of self lest they be swallowed up and suffocated by the Other. Conformity is a death knell.
We can stand still with God and with others because of the merit of we have in Christ Jesus.